Have you felt angry lately? Someone took a wrong turn suddenly on the freeway and almost ran you off the road? After years of committed service a younger guy gets the promotion just because he has an MBA. After putting in years of hard work into your business, it is not giving any returns and you have no one but yourself to blame. Your wife misbehaves with you and makes it a point that your kids know it. There are just so many circumstances that test your patience every day.
These situations make your breath short, dim your capability to think, increase your blood pressure and you end up acting out of rage. Decisions mostly taken in such a mind frame are wrong and we regret later. It becomes more and more dangerous when we start getting angry or enraged very often and it starts affecting our relationships. One of the major causes of divorce and separation is violence and anger in the marriage.
Anger is a very negative output from the human heart, the exact opposite of peace. Anger is a biggest serial killer and the most used weapon of the evil one. Our Father in heaven is always there to help us. He has given us an open invitation to a good life, a life that he expects us all to live. Anger has no place in the life that he wants us to live and thus he has provided us with ample help in his Word to help us get past such moments. He provides us with that strong foundation, calm and strong mind that anger is unable to effect out heart even momentarily.
It is very easy to lose temper and the only way you can be not angry is by loving God and others , by being patient and tolerant . Following are few verses from Bible to help you with anger.
Anger : Bible Verses
Refrain from anger, and forsake wrath! Fret not yourself; it tends only to evil.
In this Psalm of David, in very strong words King David commands to abstain from anger and renounce rage from life. He talks that it is only breed wickedness.
Proverbs 14:29- Whoever is slow to anger has great understanding, but he who has a hasty temper exalts folly.
A person who is difficult to anger will always be able to understand the world better as his mind is not easily clouded by rage and hatred. He is able to calmly appreciate the situation and make his decisions.
Proverbs 15:1 – A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
Here the writer mentions of the doings of the tongue. The tone of our voice and the soft words will always ward off any rage or anger. Cruel and unsympathetic words will fuel resentment.
Matthew 5:22-24 – But I say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother will be liable to judgment; whoever insults his brother will be liable to the council; and whoever says, ‘You fool!’ will be liable to the hell of fire. So if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother has something against you, leave your gift there before the altar and go. First be reconciled to your brother, and then come and offer your gift.
These directives have been given directly by Jesus Christ during the Sermon on the Mount. He strongly advocates immediate resolution of any disputes or anger situations that one might be having with others. He gives the act of immediate dispute resolution more importance than offering gifts to God. He also clears that anger is an act which is liable to punishment in the house of God. He wants us to reach reconciliation immediately so that no anger remains among fellow humans.
Romans 12:10-21- Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit, and serve the Lord. Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. Contribute to the needs of the saints and seek to show hospitality. Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them. Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight. Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.
Jesus Christ has given extremely simple ways to fight anger and rage in this life. As it is a command by Our Father, he wants us to serve him being happy always with hope, being uncomplaining in suffering and always praying to him. He further goes on to explain about the ideal behavior with the people who maltreat and harass us. He tells us that we should not be proud and arrogant in our behavior as it will fuel anger, instead we should always be humble and associate with all classes of people. He invites us to do good for the people who act with us in a wicked manner. He says that judgment is God’s work and we should not try to avenge ourselves but be forgiving. Instead of being mean to such people we should be kind and generous with to the evil. He wants us to overcome evil with the good at all times in our life.
Ephesians 4:26- Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger,
Jesus calls anger a sin. His advice to us is to not go to bed with anger but to reconcile before the sun goes down (immediately).
Ephesians 4:31-32- Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.
Jesus Christ wants us to get rid of all the resentment, unpleasantness, annoyance and irritation from our lives. He gives a recipe of a happy and forgiving life and wants that we forgive others completely as we were forgiven by Our Father in Heaven.
James 1:19-20- Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.
Jesus Christ wants us to work on our temperament so that it is difficult to ignite anger and rage in us.
Whenever anger creeps into us, it breaks down something that cannot be made again or replaced. We do something irreversible when we act in anger. Creating fear in others is not an act agreeable to Our Father. Jesus calls it an unrighteous act. All in all it takes us away from God. To read bible to get help in these circumstances is ideal thing. These verses will help you calm down but they should be available when you are in need. A better way would be to try to memorize them so that they can be recalled when needed and am sure they will help you relax and look at things from God’s perspective.
My Prayer for all of us
Dear Father, Thank you for the kindness and generosity that you always shower on us. We thank you for sending Jesus Christ into our lives and giving to us your Word which always guides us. Please bless us that we can win over our anger. Please make our character so strong that anger, rage, irritation, resentment and unpleasantness has no place in our lives. Bless us so that we answer evil with good and are able to forgive instantly. All this we ask you in the name of Your Son and our Savior, Jesus Christ. Amen